Even before you got engaged, you probably expected that there were countless details to organize and prepare before actually walking down the aisle. We’re confident that you knew that a dress had to be purchased, tuxedos had to be selected, and the attire for your bridal party had to be chosen well in advance of the big day. We’re certain you knew that a venue should be confirmed, a cake must be sampled and purchased, and a seating chart must dictate where your guests will sit during the festivities. But, what you may not have anticipated is something that engaged couples often face. The phrase “too many cooks in the kitchen” is something many brides and grooms encounter during their wedding planning, but in this instance, “cooks” can be defined as the couple's parents.
In their excitement for the celebration ahead, parents of engaged couples often give opinions as to how the day should look. What’s important for a bride and a groom to understand that there is a fine line when it comes to dealing with parents when planning your wedding. It is crucial to not only always be respectful and be appreciative of their valuable advice but to acknowledge that this is your special day.
Here are some impactful ways to involve your parents in your wedding plans:
Choosing the Dress
It’s the dress brides have dreamed about wearing their entire lives: inviting parents to be part of this momentous occasion is a memory for all that is sure to last a lifetime.
Taking Charge of Family Logistics
Give each set of parents the responsibility of ensuring their relations have somewhere to stay and have a reliable way of getting to the venue. It will take a big load off your plate while giving them a vital job to accomplish.
Sharing Their Network
Use your parents’ connections when it comes to planning certain details of the wedding; if your mother-in-law to be knows of a great photographer, have them help you make the introduction! Allowing them to share their contacts with is a great way to both involve them in the planning process but to guarantee the final decision lies with you and your fiance.
Preparing a Speech
These days lots of couples invite both sets of parents to make a speech at the reception, not just the father of the bride. Even if they don’t want to, it’s absolutely the thought that counts.
While there are many joyous moments during the process of planning a wedding, those joys can often be met with overwhelming stress and anxiety. Although some of this comes in the form of the sheer amount of things to get done before the big day, other tensions can arise in the form of the couple’s parents. Involving your parents in certain tasks while making it clear that you and your fiance are handling others is the easiest way to enjoy your engagement as much as possible.
Let Tiburon Golf Club help make your day a memorable one. Our beautiful 27-hole golf course, surrounded by 12-acres of rolling hills and lakes, is the perfect venue for your upcoming event. It’s so beautiful, every parent is sure to give their stamp of approval! To book your wedding ceremony and reception today, please contact Becky Dickerson, Director of Special Events at 402-896-1323 or Events@tiburongolf.com.
